This is mainly a responce video to my last video on why im choosing to go ahead and proceed with my tummy tuck rather than wait till I have my port revision surgery. I figured I make a video instead of commenting to everyone with the same question. Wow, this video is all over the place. My words get mixed up a lot. Am I nervous because im doing a stand up video for once? (LOL) Towards the end I talk about my personal struggles and the way that I am or trying to be. Im going through a lot of changes and it changes my life whether I like it or not. I guess I was trying to think and talk out loud so some words might have come out that probably dont make sense. Like I said thinking and talking out loud! Please understand that im not trying to state that I want to be perfect because im not. Im only trying to enhance my looks and/or body due to the major changes I have gone through. I want to feel awesome when I look in that mirror and I want to wear that bikni w/o any flaws. I already feel and know that im beautiful so I hope that I dont get anyone confused by what im trying to say. Maybe people that I personally know are thinking that im trying to be this completly different person when im not. Even though im going through physical changes, my heart, soul, & personality will always remain THE SAME. LAS VEGAS MEET & GREET (Feb 19-21 2010) Host: Sarah Update: www.youtube.com Paypal Donations: wlslasvegasmeetngreet.yolasite.com SEE HOW MUCH I’VE CHANGE (Dec 2008 Video) www …
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I didn’t mean to go on so much, but I can just identify so much with the way you are feeling about your success. I have about 50 pounds to go and I can’t wait until I reach goal.
You and your family are in my prayers.
Lisa
You are beautiful and you’re doing a fabulous job. He is not blind and he is probably afraid you will be attracted to another man. I’m sure you are getting lots of attention and that is probably making him feel insecure. If you two can work it out, please do, because you have a beautiful son who is depending on the both of you.
My husband has been very supportive and I hope this continues. I feel like I’m actually giving my husband and children more attention, because I feel good about myself. I am definitely more active and I don’t hide in my room watching TV on my days off. Your husband may need reassurance that you are not going to leave him when you have reached all of your goals.
Melody,
I know it was hard for you to put into words what you were feeling, but I know where you are coming from. I have lost 43 pounds so far with the lap band and I know longer want to cover up how I look. I feel so good about my accomplishment. I actually want to shop and this is something I never wanted to do in the past. I actually take more time to get ready, because I want to look good. This is the most attention I have ever given myself and I’m loving it.
i hope you recover quickly so hopefully we can hang out again at the meet and greet!
i am pretty sure will and i are going to try and go to this one! 
You look great girl! I do not feel that you are tryng to be perfect, it is just that time in your life where you want to for once feel good about yourself, and there is nothing wrong with wanting to feel something that you never felt before, and wanting to have a positive self image of yourself.
Oh melanie… you can always reschedule EVERYTHING. You are just set on your tummy tuck and I love ya for it…lol
There will be other meet and greets. Taking care of yourself is priority. Dont over do it or you may not heal the way you want. As far as your marraige DON’T give up! Marriage is hard! No one will argue with that, but it is in the hard times that a marriage is built. You are smart, loving and dedicated to a healthy life. I will be praying for you, your husband and son. Go to counseling learn to rebuild your marriage. It is worth it! I promise you will never be sorry for your marriage. Smile!
You look great. It is hard for spouses/boyfriends. He is feeling insecure and afraid he is going to lose you. You are changing. He is dealing the insecurity. Marriage is a long road. Not an easy one and it has ups and downs. Find the love you originally found for each other. Go to counseling. Talk about his feelings too. Just remember you are healthier now, better shape, and you married him for a reason. Stay strong. God Bless!
Bummed you might not make the meet and greet but of course you should take care of you first. Keep us posted on how the revision goes!!!
Mel, Just want to say that I look forward to seeing all of your posts. I am hoping that you and your husband can compromise and work it out. In listening to your vid about you changing all, I feel that the most important factor is that you got healthier. You dont have high cholesterol, high blood pressure, diabetes, back/knee problems, youre not bed bound etc. You made it out of an unhealthy body with hard work and will power. Had you not, would you be hear today? Good Job Melanie!
Hi Mel,
Listen, I agree with the commentors who say that you look wonderful. Your awesome personality simply comes through. That alone is admirable! Try not to worry about hubby’s thinking (I know it’s hard not to). Keep praying and definitely keep the faith in that your marriage will remain positive and intact! I agree that hubby is probably feeling a bit insecure -like many men when their woman loses weight and becomes sexier. Continue to work it out and I pray it comes together!
Melanie – I must say that you were very beautiful at 275 and you are very beautiful at 150. I can relate to exactly what you are going through. My husband is all worried that if I get real skinny I am going to leave him for someone else. I thought you might have that issue when your husband said on one video that he thought you couldn’t have kids after lapband and he was excited to find out you can, but then another video you said you were not having any more, so I did wonder how he felt.
You look absolutely amazing…your husband is probably afraid of losing you…girl you have to let him know that he is what you want. So many of my friends who have lost weight husbands have changed. I pray that God works things out for you two.
Looking good!
Part II: I mean no offense, but, I think that a lot of men are comofrtable with an overweight girl friend, because they think we can only turn so many heas, but smaller girls, are more noticed. Maybe you can do something special for him to make him feel like he STILL is THE MAN… of your dreams…. Just thinkin’
Coco
Hey Mel, Its a shame about the marital problems..I dont know what to say. I mean, I hope to lose at least 100 pounds, and I know for a fact that my dress WILL change. I am looking at your outfit and that cute little belt you have on. I NEVER wear belts because of my Humongous stomach. So, maybe your husband has a little insecurity when it comes to his and your looks…
I pray that everything works out for you. You look great
You look fab Mel!! Good look with your situation w/ your hubby..I think he may be feeling a little insecure about all the changes taking place with you. I’m sure it will work out. Keep being you, but try to understand his side as well. Assure him that you are the same wife who loved him last year!!! Love Ya! Thanks for your honesty, I know that must be hard to share with us.
omq you look so amazing; congrats on all your hard work .. i wish you the best as always . keep in touch
–jazzy red–
HOT MAMA! WOW! that dress look super nice on you. you are doing what is right for you and you are doing it when you want to. that is all good! ain’t nothing that is going to break you down, nothing is going to slow you down, nothing is going to break stride. . .you just got to keep on moving! sorry to hear about the trouble with your hubby. life is hard and you have to be strong and do what is BEST for YOU in every situation. if you need an ear, i am hear for you. big hugs! perfect? U R!
girl you look absolutely amazing! U were always hecka cute, but now I can see ur confidence radiating from my monitor. I know it must be a hard time for ur man because ur a smoking hot woman now. I know that can scare guys tho, so let him know you still love him. Now the time for you to shine. Why shouldn’ t u go for perfection? Tell him ur not trying to be perfect cause that can happen, but you do want to be as beautiful as you can be. Take care girl.
You look so fantastic standing up! With your great dress! I really hope you can make it to the meet and great! The recovery is so easy for the surgery, but with everthing that is going I understand the confusion. I really hope you and your man can make it through this. He has to adjust to this new amazing woman. I know it must be hard for both of you..
Thank you for all of your videos Melanie- You are an inspiration! I am currently at the start of a 6 month required program to be eligable for WLS, so watching these videos is really helping me to stay inspired. Thanks again, and CONGRATS on your sucess!
~Shel
I totally get what you are saying Melanie. This is the time for you. We, women, are always taking care of other people, tending to their needs and wants and not our own. Now is the time for YOU! This is something you feel the need to do for yourself. Your hubby may be feeling that you are not paying enough attention to him. Just keep reassuring him that a happier you will make a happier him! Take care.